Uncovering the Family Patterns
Family ties can create the love and support that we need, or a greater divide than we ever thought possible. Regardless of your stance on your family, and what makes you work together or against one another, the patterns that make themselves known within the family can be a tell tale sign as to where the traumas have been captured within the DNA.
Take Monica** for example. Her family was broken when she was only three years old. Her parents divorced, and she was moved to the other side of the country by her mother. She lost contact with her own father as he was busy with work.
Monica's mother went through a very similar experience. Her father had died when she was 5 years old. Her mother, in experiencing her husband's death, moved to another city and they no longer spoke to her father's family.
To go on even further, Monica's grandmother was abandoned by her own father when she was just 4 years old.
For all three women, with 3 different experiences....their story was much the same. They all had issues with trusting men, and in developing deeper relationships with them. When Monica came to see me she had gone through 2 divorces, which stemmed from trust issues.
Working on the Ohana Generational Healing with Monica, we focused a lot on trust issues, and reconnecting the father role within her support system. Monica has since then started to create a relationship with her father. She states, 'It's not perfect yet...there's a lot of time to make up for, but he listens now when I talk to him.'
Take some time to see if your experience has been felt by anyone else in your family. More often than not, the feelings that are associated with the experiences that we have, are also closely connected to that of our family members. In the case of Monica, the patterns revolved around trust, abandonment and forcibly letting go of the men that were in their lives.
By seeing your own family patterns you can begin to create a change to move forward, so that you can mend the broken relationships, and bring yourself to a place of forgiveness.