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   July 2016
Setting Healthy Boundaries

 
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"Sunset over the Tumacacori Mountains, July 2016", Susannah Castro

In this newsletter:
Introducing the new STAR brochure
Calendar & Registration Information for STAR Retreats 2016 - 2017
"Believing is Seeing", STAR Founder, Barbara Findeisen

A special event, Friday, July 8, 2016 at Kenyon Ranch
"Where I End and You Begin", STAR Facilitator, Rachel Garst

Call to STAR Facilitators
Introducing the new STAR Foundation brochure. Take a look at our preview below. You can download a copy to print or email here STAR Brochure.
 

Our Star 2016- 2017 retreats are filling up quickly! We have also added our 2017 retreats so you can plan ahead. You can find a calendar and other information, including how to register, on our website by clicking the links below.

 

2016 Summer STAR Retreat
July 22, 2016 - July 31, 2016

2016 Fall STAR Retreat
September 2, 2016 - September 11, 2016

2017 Winter STAR Retreat
January 27, 2017 - February 5, 2017

2017 Spring STAR Retreat
April 21, 2017 - April 30, 2017

2017 Summer STAR Retreat
July 21, 2017 - July 30, 2017

2017 Fall STAR Retreat
October 13, 2017 - October 22, 2017

"Raven and Clouds, July 2016", Susannah Castro

Dear Star Friends,


BELIEVING IS SEEING

The monsoon rains have come to this high Arizona desert. Thunder, lightning, black clouds and rainbows fill the sky almost daily. It is beautiful.

Here on Kenyon Ranch we are busy cleaning rooms and making changes for the group arriving in 2 weeks. We are also reviewing the STAR program to serve each one of our clients to best experience this powerful healing psychological program. It is not a cookie cutter process.

When I was a college student my least favorite subject was psychology. It was so codified and rigid. I felt it left me with no feelings, not trusting my heart and with none of the magic of being a unique, loving person. I knew the rules of how I was expected to be and I did it well. However, I wanted freedom to be myself and not just play another role. In those days becoming a psychologist felt like going from one box into another. I did not know it then but I yearned for transformation, not just a simple change but a radical shift in my perception.

Several years later in the 60’s and 70’s San Francisco became the national hub of a summer of love and a revolution in consciousness. Living nearby I could not help but be intrigued. I started experimenting, going to Esalen, Rolfing, EST and Primal Therapy. Then I went to graduate school and became a therapist. Psychology itself had been transforming and I was part of it.

When I stumbled upon memories of birth trauma and life in the womb with my clients I struggled over believing it could be true. To avoid ridicule I was hesitant to share with many of my colleagues at the clinic where I worked. I set out on a path seeking others who knew about Pre and Perinatal Psychology. There were many. There were books, many from Europe and now in the United States. I attended the first conference in the Western Hemisphere in Toronto and became a Board Member. I was amazed and thrilled. Traumatic experiences that occur during gestation and birth are still not widely acknowledged as powerful life changing events psychologically. Sadly, although recognized it’s still neglected in most Schools of Psychology. Now knowledge of the mind, the two brains, the power of emotions and importance of the body in exploring consciousness have become main stream. Meditation and classes in mindfulness are in colleges and readily available throughout our communities. We are experiencing authenticity, miracles of peak experiences and altered states of consciousness. As we grew the STAR process also grew and expanded. The brave souls who attended became my greatest teachers and they still are.

Transition is a radical shift in how we see the world and our place in it. We have heard “seeing is believing.” Often what we think we see is a projection of the past and is no longer true. We keep recycling the same old stuff. Mind science now teaches the power of your thoughts and that you can change what you believe and how you feel. We have the ability to see new possibilities and manifest a healthier, happier and more loving life. In this way we can honestly say that believing is seeing. “What you think about you bring about.” Consider the possibilities.

-Barbara Findeisen, STAR Founder and Board Chair
A special event, Friday, July 8, 2016 at Kenyon Ranch:

Kenyon Ranch presents
Culinary Tour of the World

Date: Friday, July 8, 2016
Time: 5:30 - 8:30 PM

You are cordially invited to join us at historic Kenyon Ranch for hor d’oeuvres with wine pairings
Steak skewer with molasses chipotle dipping sauce
Chicken Pot sticker with saffron coconut sauce
Thai watermelon gazpacho shots with shrimp
Caprese salad with baby mozzarella
Crab cakes on cucumber rounds, and much more…

Author, Barbara Findeisen, will also read from her highly
acclaimed book, “Womb Prints.”

Live guitar music.

Tour is $ 65
RSVP: (520) 440-4897
80 Kenyon Ranch Road
Tubac, Arizona 85646

Where I End and You Begin

One thing we do at Star Foundation is some explorations of personal boundaries. Boundaries are a way of expressing where one person ends and another begins.

Boundaries suggest my right to control and expect a degree of privacy regarding my own physical body and immediate personal space. However the concept goes much farther, to include my right to control my own home, car, and phone; and personal spheres of action such as my voting rights or my parental role.

A useful concept in considering boundaries is that of a “Personal Bill of Rights,” which establishes that each and every person has a right to their own values, beliefs, feelings, preferences, and actions –whatever these might be.

Our personal values and beliefs are highly individualistic. Formed from complex interactions between our innate personality traits, training and education, and seminal experiences, these are unique to each individual. One person might be highly patriotic, while another thinks walls between countries should be torn down. One person may value order above all - the next, creativity. One person will believe in God,
another in UFOs.

Since each person has good reason to be the way they are, no one is really in a position to judge another. The main limitation would be where my actions are illegal or cause direct harm to another.

Otherwise, I can wear what I like, decide if I want sex or not, chose the size of my family, decorate my homes as I please, raise my children as I choose, etc.

In our judgemental society, it is common for people to spend a lot of energy passing verdict on, and attempting to control, the actions of others. The concept of a personal bill of rights allows me, when others’ judge and second-guess, to take their opinions with a big grain of salt. I know my decisions are between me and my conscience.

What was harder to understand about the Personal Bill of Rights is that if I have one, then so does everyone else, as well. This helps me not to meddle in things that, frankly, are none of my business.

Others get to vote for a candidate I despise, or dislike my loud tone of voice, and they have the perfect right to value, believe and feel whatever they want. As the sign on my computer reminds me every day, “What other people think of me is none of my business.”

The beauty of the Star experience is the non-judgemental attitudes of the staff and facilitators. Here at Star we recognize that all persons are individuals with their own reasons for being the way they are in the world. Baseline attitudes of acceptance and respect create a safe, healing experience.

As my boundaries have improved my focus has shifted away from controlling others, to just trying to run my own life the best that I can. Focusing on my own sphere of control, rather than controlling others, is a perfect recipe for reducing frustration and increasing connection.

-Rachel Garst, STAR Facilitator
"Monsoon Rainbow", Susannah Castro
STAR: Call for STAR facilitators
 
After years of being one of the best-kept secrets in the therapeutic community, STAR is beginning to gain broader recognition and generate greater public interest. Since we moved our facilities back to the beautiful Kenyon Ranch, we have experienced a surge in the number of individuals interested in participating in the STAR program. We are delighted to run full STARs, and increase our impact.
 
In order to meet this increased demand, we need to expand our team of STAR facilitators. Our team is a dynamic group of committed, big-hearted individuals. Everyone on staff has attended a STAR retreat, and all have received training in the multimodal STAR method.  Many facilitators have advanced therapeutic degrees in counseling, social work and psychology and some have their own private practices. Other STAR facilitators bring expertise from the realms of addiction and recovery, bodywork, education, coaching, communication, art therapy and more.  All facilitators are committed to helping and making meaningful contributions to others. 

If STAR made a difference in your life, and you would like to give back by becoming a facilitator, we’d like you to apply.  If you know of an individual with healing gifts, deep empathy and communication skills who might make a great facilitator, we’d love for you to pass this on to them.  You can apply to become a facilitator by emailing  scastro@starfound.org or by completing this form:  Become A STAR Facilitator.
 
           Thank for your interest in supporting the healing work of STAR.
 

The STAR Foundation's mission is to provide nurturing intensives where adults experience empowerment and inspiration, and are given tools to transform their lives.

We also hope that you will continue your generous contributions to STAR Foundation in order to fulfill our mission, vision, and values.

There are several ways you can contribute:

  • You can pledge monthly support. Your gift helps us cover operational costs, workshop leader salaries and provides a stable financial base for our work.
  • You can make a one-time donation.
  • You can dedicate your donation to the general fund or one of two scholarship funds; General Scholarship or our new Diversity Scholarship to encourage participation from diverse ethnic and racial backgrounds.

Your support will be greatly appreciated.  You can make checks payable to STAR Foundation – our mailing address is below. You can also donate online at our website here www.starfound.org/donations. STAR Foundation is tax-exempt under 501(c) (3) of the I.R.S. Code EIN 77-0009281.
 
Please mail donations to:
STAR Foundation, PO Box 8164, Tumacacori, AZ 85640

Visit www.starfound.org for more information, to register for a retreat, or to make a donation in support of our programs. The STAR© Retreat is a 501c3 non profit. The STAR© Retreat stands alone among personal growth workshops with its 1-to-2 staff to participant ratio. Its remarkably large, diverse, and knowledgable staff provide you, as a participant, a safe, unparalleled level of personalized attention creating an extremely individualized and tailored experience. Follow us on Facebook or Twitter by visiting the links below.
  
Photos copyright and courtesy John Sims, Susannah Castro and Kathy Reid, used by permission of the artists.
Copyright © 2016 Star Foundation, All rights reserved.


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