Episode 117 is live! We indulge in several list-making adventures to discuss recent reading and books we're looking forward to in the first quarter of the year, have an intense discussion about "Ironheart" by Jonathan Maberry, and return to Ms. Marvel for the eighth volume, Mecca. Plus, what we're obsessing over.
Welcome to 2019! Also welcome to being halfway through the first month of it—it's flying by and I've only managed to read one book. I'm currently reading an ARC of Gideon the Ninth, and y'all will be hearing more from me about this book in the future, so maybe just save time now and add it to your 2019 TBR.
In 2019, I have pledged to be kinder to myself and I hope all of you are considering similar endeavors. Not resolutions, per se, but mindfulness of how you treat yourself inside your head. I didn't do so well on that front in 2018, but 2019 is a fresh year and there's plenty of time to make positive changes.
One of the positive changes I'm making is to say no. A few years ago I read a book by Shonda Rhimes called The Year of Yes where she said yes to everything—from playing with her kids for a few minutes even if it made her a little late to an event to incredible, career-altering opportunities. I decided it was time for me to do something similar, except with "no". Part of my anxiety is that I will get obsessive about doing new things, adding new tasks, and starting new projects. I say "yes" too much, all at once, to everyone. It's a way for me to not have to deal with my own thoughts, because you can't stress and be overly anxious if you're busy, and the results are not great. It's also how I've ended up with five on-the-go knitting projects and zero completed projects. My task acquisition is as simple as responding to an email where the sender didn't ask me to do anything, but I think, "oh, it would be nice if I offered to help with that one thing they're doing" even if they don't mention it, to taking over a political group that I have no capacity to run long term.
It's hard to say no and disappoint people, but 2019 is the year of centering myself, focusing on things I love, and being present in my life, not off plotting the next project or way to make myself useful. I hope everyone struggling with similar problems finds their own way to making time for themselves. It's a tough world out there, and the news isn't going to get any easier to handle. Let's support ourselves so we can support each other.
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