In this issue: I’m a black dad, not a unicorn; calling out the BS on multiracial identity; tools for learning about the indigenous land your family is standing on, and tons more!

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Welcome back to EmbraceRace, where we gather to support each other in matters of race and raising kids. In this bimonthly newsletter you’ll find our curated selection of recent resources and articles. Thanks to all of you who recommended resources and posts.


First, register to join the next EmbraceRace webinar, A look at the realities facing children in undocumented and mixed-status families, happening Tuesday, July 25th at 5:30 pm PT/8:30 pm ET. We’re excited to be joined by Dr. Cinthya Chin Herrera for this conversation. Cinthya is a child and family psychologist whose work centers on providing culturally sensitive, trauma-informed services to vulnerable children, youth, and families in community-based mental health settings.

Undocumented immigrant adults are mothers and fathers, sisters and brothers, grandparents, neighbors, community members, and workers. The prospect and realities of often violent ICE raids, detentions, and deportations are potentially traumatizing -- for them and for the children who love them, depend on them, and sometimes are forcibly removed alongside them. Join us for a conversation about the threats and challenges facing children in families and communities marked by undocumented or "mixed" immigration status.

Second, consider blogging for EmbraceRace. Who blogs for EmbraceRace? People of all racial and ethnic stripes, ages, experiences, geographies. People with something to say about race and kids and the challenges of raising kids in these United States. People willing to put some of their stuff out there. Come share your experiences, convictions, and questions. (You can even publish anonymously!) Drop us a line if you might be interested.


Andrew and Melissa

The challenge of getting to ‘woke’ when white

“... my whole life I should have been an ideal ‘ally’ in terms of intent and heart and willingness to learn and STILL it took me until 50 to even begin to understand.”
Epiphanies on race
Anonymously Yours, EmbraceRace
[5-minute read]

When the valedictorian tells the truth about her unequal, neglected, under-resourced school

“Today is the day when we walk across a stage and take our diplomas, as an act of defiance to those who said we could not. We have had many students, administrators, and teachers come and go. We have had heart break; we have had our nation turn its back on us, through supporting those who support hate. So, to those that believed my classmates and I were incapable, I have decided to leave a message for you …”
“Today is About The Truth”
Coral Ortiz, New Haven Independent
[4-minute read]

Video: Multiracial young adults speak out

"What's troublesome about it that that she chose 'Other'; I chose 'Other.' We're not the same; we don't have the same [racial] backgrounds. So how in the world can you lump us together? What is it saying on these government documents that we're 'Other'? What are you getting at by lumping us together?"
Shutting Down BS about Multiracial Identity
Dylan Marron, Seriously TV
[9-minute video]

A black dad walks into a parent group ...

"I can see the myriad of conclusions that people arrive at: “He must be unemployed”, “He can't be with the mother of the child”, “He mustn't see the child much”, “This must be his one day with the baby”. And I know some want to ask me questions: why am I not at work? Do I even have a job? Where is the mother? Why is he wearing his hat like that?!"
I'm a young, married, professional black father. And I don't exist.
Elliott Rae, The Independent
[3-minute read]


Being white, raising black and brown

“Yes, while they’re living under my roof, it is both the job of my wife and myself to take care of our foster children of color in the same way we take care of our biological children. But the experience has driven home to me that my job is also to take care of them by doing everything in my power to help make the world they live in a more tolerant and just place.”
I’m a white foster parent seeing racism through my black and brown children’s eyes
Shmuly Yanklowitz, Washington Post
[4-minute read]


Reading those little racist 'classics' with kids

"It would be easy to take these books off the shelf, to say that they – like many books of their time – were steeped in white supremacy and racism and therefore they do not belong in our canon. It would also be easy to read all of the pages full of wonder and wild adventure and a family’s love and skip over the parts that inconveniently don’t fit that narrative. Instead, I am trying a middle path ..."
Reading Racism: Or, How I’m Learning to Wrestle with "Little House on the Prairie"
James Noonan, Harvard blog
[3-minute read]

Racial/ethnic pride and support is protective for kids

"Overall, we found that a strong ethnic identity and greater social support were protective factors in the link between discrimination and adjustment problems in this sample of Mexican-origin youths. That is, having a stronger ethnic identity or more social support weakened the link between discrimination and adjustment problems."
Strong Ethnic Identity, Social Support Help Latino Youths Cope with Racism
Andrea Zeek, Indiana University School of Medicine
[3-minute read]

White supremacy does not stop at the KKK

“Many people, especially older white people, associate the term white supremacy with extreme and explicit hate groups. However, for sociologists, white supremacy is a highly descriptive term for the culture we live in; a culture which positions white people and all that is associated with them (whiteness) as ideal.”
No, I Won’t Stop Saying “White Supremacy”
Robin DiAngelo, Yes Magazine
[5-minute read]

Resources to use with kids


Enter your address: Interactive map of indigenous territories and languages in North America

“[This] map must be used critically. Maps function as colonial artifacts and represent a very particular way of seeing the world - a way primarily concerned with ownership, exclusivity, and power relations ...And if people do not take these things into account, the map may prove more harmful than valuable.”
Learn more about where you live

Fighting your biases: Advice for adults that is applicable to kids

"Here are some of the steps we recommend as a good way to begin fighting bias in yourself.
1. Pay attention to how your bias shapes your environment
2. Expose yourself to counter-stereotypical images
3. Reach out across difference
4. Ask, don’t assume; listen, don’t judge"
How to Build Relationships across Difference
Matthew Freeman, Greater Good Magazine
[7-minute read]

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