In this issue: how my white kids and my black kids are treated in the world; moving from “How to not LOOK racist” to “How to BE anti-racist”; plus tools and children’s books!

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Welcome (back) to EmbraceRace, your community of support for raising children who are thoughtful, informed, and brave about race. 

If you missed our last EmbraceRace Community Conversation, IntegrateNYC4Me: Pushing back against segregated public schools in NYC and beyond, you can watch it or read the transcript and find resources discussed here. Well worth your time! Thanks again to IntegrateNYC founder and executive director, Sarah Camiscoli, and to IntegrateNYC Youth Leaders Matt Diaz and Hebh Jamal for sharing your work and vision for "real integration." Props also to all of you who sent in questions or engaged in the discussion in real time. 

EmbraceRace Community Conversations take place every 4th Tuesday of the month at 5:30 pm PT/8:30 pm ET. On October 24th, join us for Why and how to encourage cross-racial friendships among children, with guest Professor Amber Williams. What distinguishes the children who have positive attitudes about, and friendships with, different-race kids from the children who don't? What might parents and other caregivers do to encourage cross-racial friendships in young children? Register for that conversation here.


Andrew and Melissa

IntegrateNYC4Me and the 5 R’s of real integration  

"’Real integration’ cannot be a repeat of the Little Rock Nine's experience. We are not about stripping young people of color of their dignity for the sake of having access or access to resources. It's a much deeper, much more complex, much longer journey than that.” 
IntegrateNYC4Me: Pushing back against segregated public schools in NYC and beyond
EmbraceRace Community Conversation
[watch hour-long video or read transcript + resources]

My Black kids are treated differently than my White kids are. Very differently.

“The reason why the phrase ‘All Lives Matter’ is offensive to black people is because it isn't true. Right now, in America, my black children are treated differently than my white children.”
Mother of two black and three white kids' post on racism is a must read
Kate Riffle Roper, Daily O
[4-minute read]

How our individual choices maintain an inequitable school system, and more from Nikole Hannah-Jones

“Nikole Hannah-Jones was named a 2017 MacArthur fellow on Wednesday, one of 24 recipients worldwide. The MacArthur board recognized Hannah-Jones, a staff writer for The New York Times Magazine, for ‘chronicling the persistence of racial segregation in American society, particularly in education, and reshaping national conversations around education reform.’”
The Best of Nikole Hannah-Jones
Nikole Hannah-Jones, New York Times
[a collection of articles]


Only 55% of kids in the U.S. attend preschool

“When it comes to educating kids under 5, the United States spends one of the lowest amounts of any developed nation in the world, according to data from the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development.”
By age 3, inequality is clear: Rich kids attend school. Poor kids stay with a grandparent
Heather Long, Washington Post
[4-minute read]


Moving from teaching kids “How to not LOOK racist” to teaching them “How to BE anti-racist”

“Do not trust your previous instincts when it comes to race. You were probably raised to equate being nice with not being racist; that’s simply not true.”
The New Playbook for Anti-Racism Parenting
Real Talk: WOC & Allies, Medium
[6-minute read]

Resources to use with kids


Books that take readers beyond tokens and icons

“Here are some resources to help us move beyond tokens and icons to a deeper understanding of our history and its legacy, toward our own marches for liberty and justice for all.”  These books range from picture books to books for teens. 
Books to Help Kids Understand the Fight for Racial Equality
Olugbemisola Rhuday-Perkovich, Brightly
[3-minute read]

Tools for helping kids who’ve suffered trauma

“Several factors can change the course of kids’ lives: feeling seen and heard by a caring adult, being patiently taught coping strategies and resilience-building techniques, and being with adults who know about the effects of such experiences. Here are ways to bring these factors to life.”
Traumatic Experiences | Sesame Street in Communities
Sesame Street
[various resources]

Books starring characters of color written by authors of color

“Below I’ve rounded up a list of new(ish) authors of color who write diverse books aimed at children, teens, and young adults. They produce works that resonate with the times, speak to the future, and give children of color the opportunity to see themselves reflected in books.”
17 New Authors of Color Writing Much-Needed Stories for Kids
Charnaie Gordon, Brightly
[3-minute read]

Your turn

What's going on in race and kids near you? Reach us at (or simply respond to this email). Find more stories from the EmbraceRace community at our website. 

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