In this issue: raising my Black, Muslim daughters in toxic times; why “childhood innocence” is always white; supporting children who have reasons to fear ICE; picture books featuring multiracial families .... and more!

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Welcome back to EmbraceRace, where we gather to support each other in matters of race and raising kids. In this bimonthly newsletter you’ll find our curated selection of recent resources and articles. Thanks to all of you who recommended resources and posts.

This month's EmbraceRace community conversation, Let's Counter Islamophobia through Stories, happens on Tuesday, August 22nd at 5:30 pm PT/8:30 pm ET. (Mark your calendars! It's always the 4th Tuesday of the month at the same time.) We're thrilled to have the founders of Kitaabworld, Gauri Manglik and Sadaf Siddique, join us to share their work and to take your questions. As always, it's online and free. Register to join!

A hearty thank-you! to participants and registrants for our conversation with Dr. Cinthya Chin Herrera last month. The recording and resources from that conversation, A look at the realities facing children in undocumented and mixed-status families, are now available.  

And thanks, too, to all of you who've been in touch recently to inquire about blogging for EmbraceRace, suggest partnerships, share ideas for this work, and suggest funding sources. We are so grateful to have an increasing number of supporters and collaborators!


Andrew and Melissa

Brown kids in a White extended family

Most of her kids are Brown; nearly all her extended family is White. What can a White mother do to promote stability and a sense of belonging for all her children - inside and outside the family?
(Almost) the Only Brown People at the Reunion: Raising Kids of Color in a Predominantly White Extended Family
Megan Dowd Lambert, EmbraceRace
[6-minute read]

Raising Black, Muslim daughters in toxic times

“I may not feel completely safe outside or inside my home, but I am — as my favorite t-shirt says — “my ancestors’ wildest dreams.” I wear that shirt as armor.”
Searching for the promise of Juneteenth
Autumn Allen, EmbraceRace
[6-minute read]

Race and “childhood innocence”: A closer look

“It’s time to create language that values justice over innocence. The most important question we can ask about children may not be whether they are inherently innocent. Instead: Are they hungry? Do they have adequate health care? Are they free from police brutality? Are they threatened by a poisoned and volatile environment? Are they growing up in a securely democratic nation?”
Let Black Kids Just Be Kids
Robin Bernstein, New York Times
[7-minute read]


Teach your white kids to look out for my black son

"So white parents, please talk to your kids about racism. If they see my [black] son being bullied or called racist names, they need to stand with him. They need to understand how threatening that is and not just something to be laughed off. If your child is with my child playing soccer at the park and the police drive by, tell your child to stay—just stay right there with my son. Be a witness. In that situation, be extra polite, extra respectful. Don’t run and don’t leave my son by himself …”
Dear White Parents Of My Black Child’s Friends: I Need Your Help
Marralee Bradley, Scary Mommy
[4-minute read]


Is it on children of color to survive the police? Some state legislators are effectively saying.... YES, it is. 

“[P]oliticians and law enforcement agencies have taken victim-blaming to a new level, suggesting — and, in some states, requiring — that children undergo "interaction" trainings with the forces who are hired to bravely protect them and to equitably serve them, yet fail to do both.”
Don't Teach Kids How to Survive Police Encounters, Train Cops to De-escalate
Lincoln Anthony Blades, Teen Vogue
[4-minute read]

How an affluent white minority comes to rule the PTA

"At Rolling Terrace, 68 percent of the students receive free or reduced-price lunch. Sixty-three percent of its population is Hispanic, 15 percent is black, and another 15 percent is white. But the parents of that sliver of the student population that is white and affluent—most of whom were drawn to the school’s Spanish-immersion program—have outsize influence over what happens in the school."

“We have to do right by our ‘own’ kids. But there's no rule that we can't care about and look out for other people's kids too, right?”
How Marginalized Families Are Pushed Out of PTAs
Casey Quinlan, The Atlantic
[9-minute read]

Even the Supreme Court doesn’t know this history

How buried is this history of the role the U.S. federal government played in engineering segregation for decades, writing it into housing policy and regulations? In a 2007 Supreme Court decision Justice Roberts wrote for the majority opinion that segregation “is a product not of state action but of private choices, it does not have constitutional implications.” He was arguing against the effectiveness and constitutionality of state attempts to counter segregation.  Even worse, even in dissent left-leaning Justice Stephen Breyer agreed with this framing. We hear that false argument repeated whenever there’s an attempt to counter segregation. If you don’t know this history you’re in “elite” company. 

A 'Forgotten History' of How the U.S. Government Segregated America
Terry Gross, NPR
[6 minute-read, 36-minute listen]

Resources to use with kids


VIDEO: Comforting children negatively affected by immigration status

“[This video for parents] models interactions between parent and child and shows them how to respond, and comfort a child who faces the stress of bullying, and potential family separation. Using the familiar dicho ‘Better safe than sorry’(‘Mas vale prevenir que lamentar’), it also encourages parents to develop a plan that is best for their family and how to provide for the care and well-being of their child in the event of an emergency.”
Abriendo Puertas/Opening Doors releases Spanish-language video to support immigrant parents
Abriendo Puertas/Opening Doors
[5-minute videos and various resources]

VIDEO: “A photograph is shaped more by the person behind the camera than by what is in front of it”

This is brilliant. The same man, dressed exactly the same way in the same physical setting. What could be more *objective* than photos of that man, right? Yet, look at how the photographers' preconceptions about the man shaped the photos they took to capture "who he really is." Consider the implications not only for the photos we see of others - people in the news, for example - but of how WE ourselves see others, directly, and even how we might see ourselves.
THE LAB: DECOY - A portrait session with a twist
Canon Austrailia
[3-minute video]

Picture books about multiracial families

According to the Pew Research Center, 1 in 10 US children are mixed-race and the share of mixed-race Americans is increasing THREE TIMES FASTER than the US population as a whole.
These books reflect many of the families in which these kids are growing up. They're a start!
50+ Picture Books about Mixed Race Families
Color of Us
[4-minute read]

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