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High Dreams January 2016, Courage
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Hello,
 
I wanted to start the New Year with “courage”. Courage; bravery, dauntlessness, readily confronting danger, being strong or setting out to discover the unknown…. When I learned, with some surprise, that the root of the word “courage” comes from the Latin word “cor” which means heart,  I asked myself again what courage, in reality, was. It is, being aware of yourself, that is your values and strengths; being aware of what you want; knowing your present standpoint with respect to your desires; having faith and trust in overcoming inner and outer obstacles during your journey to your envisioned future;  being able to love yourself with all the mistakes and weaknesses you might have during this process;  continue learning and show effort to proceed in the path you believe.
 
One of the most effective ways to exhibit courage is to recognize the saboteur; the negative inner voice which suppresses your real potential, to manage it and to make your choices with trust, not under the threat of your inner critic.
 
Based on unrealistic data, your inner critic questions your abilities continually. It overstates your every small mistake and underrates your every success. It undermines your creativity. Your inner critic wants you to always remain in your comfort zone. You are never good, excellent, powerful, successful, clever or confident enough for your inner critic. This creates an inner feeling of inadequacy. You thus develop constricted beliefs regarding what you deserve or what is possible. You are discouraged to display your thoughts and feelings sincerely. This thus affects your actions and their results. Your leadership style is naturally affected by this.
 
As you begin to manage your saboteur, you show the courage to move out from your comfort zone and choose the right instead of the easy. You give up being continually under control and begin to take risks and develop trust relations. You might talk about the strengths and development opportunities concerning yourself and your team with confidence and sincerity. Instead of being afraid of making mistakes, blaming yourself and your circumstances, you may learn from your mistakes and proceed.
 
Now, what is to be done to manage the saboteur?
  • First of all, become aware of your inner critic without judging.
  • Try to respond to its challenges, punishments and general criticisms with humor.
  • Learn to acknowledge yourself.
  • Take strong decisions in line with your vision and goals.
  • In your communication network, take care to maintain the people who see the best in you and support realization of your potential.
Finally, in your saboteur’s criticisms, look for the hints oriented to your development. Don’t forget:
 
“There is a crack, a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in.” (Anthem, Leonard Cohen)

Be courageous with love.
 
 
Aylin Bozkurt Tüzmen
MBA, PCC, ACPC
High Dreams suggests:
Click to listen to the inspiring speech of Dr. Brené Brown who makes research about courage, authenticity, vulnerability and shame.
High Dreams suggests:
A quotation from Theodore Roosevelt’s Man in the Arena in Brené Brown's book Daring Greatly:
 
It is not the critic who counts, not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly… who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who have never known neither victory nor defeat.”


 
About Us:
Who is Aylin Bozkurt Tüzmen?
The most powerful motivation which facilitated my transformation has been my passion for learning in every phase of my life. And moreover, my passion for learning to learn. Innovative approaches have always excited me. My adventure of self-seeking which started at thirties evolved into a self-creation adventure. I rejoice in the happiness of transformation of my career focused work life into a life aimed at vocational passion. I still learn to increase my courage under my fears and concerns. My endeavor to express my real “self” honestly and sincerely still continues. As a coach, I wholeheartedly believe that it is my responsibility to offer you inspiration and contribute to your transformation. High Dreams lights the way for me to create the contribution and difference I aspire.
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